Manifestation and Positive Thinking

Hey everyone, in this week’s episode, I’m diving into a powerful conversation sparked by a recent encounter with a woman who deeply saw me and genuinely wanted to understand my healing journey. We talked about how I’ve navigated my way through pain—particularly post-divorce—and how I’ve leaned into my connection with God to transmute that pain into something empowering and beautiful.

I’m sharing insights about my personal manifestation process, the mindset shifts that have allowed me to detach from trauma, and the spiritual practices that continue to guide me toward lightness, love, and my higher self. This is about more than just staying positive—it’s about facing the fire, turning toward growth, and choosing alignment over victimhood. If you’re seeking encouragement, spiritual clarity, or a reminder that healing is possible, this one's for you.

Episode Highlights:

[0:02] - Kicking off with a reflection on a soul-level connection at a party and how it led to a deep conversation on healing
[2:40] - Sharing how facing the fire and embracing spiritual connection became essential to my recovery
[4:12] - Turning darkness into light through the power of thought and intentional manifestation
[6:00] - Visualizing higher self outcomes and how imagination becomes a vehicle for healing
[7:46] - Discussing how my manifestation process has become almost effortless through divine alignment
[10:04] - Addressing victim mentality and the courage it takes to choose growth instead of staying stuck
[13:22] - Reflecting on being seen, validated, and how meaningful that felt at this stage in my journey

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Transcript

Caryn Portnoy: 0:02

Hi everyone, and welcome to the music of Life. I'm your host. Karen Portnoy, before I get into this episode, please comment, ask questions, share some of your experiences, and don't forget to subscribe. You Oh, so I was at a party on Saturday night, and I was seated next to a woman who I've met before. She's about 2020, to 25 years older than I am, and the first time we met, I don't know, we just really connected on a soul level. I just, I never felt more seen or more understood by somebody I just met. But we, we had so much to talk about, and on Saturday night, we discussed my healing and how that was going. And she was really blown away by how far I've come from the last time I saw her, and so she was asking me a lot of questions about how I healed, and I couldn't really express it in a way that wasn't so self promoting. But she kept saying like, and you never like. You don't read books about this, and you didn't learn some some other way. And really, what it came down to was, No, I have kind of taught myself the things that I've healed from, and I couldn't explain to you how or why I just the more I connected to the universe, God, source, creator, whatever anybody calls it, I call it God. It was, the stronger that connection became, the easier it was for me to detach myself from my wounds. And I'll talk a little bit more about that, but it was a very eye opening thing to talk about, because nobody's really asked me directly. Some people ask me online on, you know, some of those divorce groups that I'm in on social media, but nobody's really asked me to my face, how are you healing? How did you heal? How How are you continuing to move forward based on everything that you've gone through in your divorce, and it's very humbling to me, because I was really brought to my knees. I really was and and the beginning of this podcast explains it. Mostly. There's a lot of stuff I did not include in this podcast, but those moments and those experiences are really quite personal to me and my daughter and my family. So certain things I did leave out, but you know, for the most part, I would say 90 to 95% of what I've discussed is the gist of it all. Anyway. So I was telling this woman that I just keep facing the fire, from minute one, from three years ago, until now and beyond, I just I keep facing the fire. I keep looking at my wounds. I look at whatever trauma I've been through, whatever issues I've had, whatever insecurities there are whatever I felt wronged by other people, whatever it is, abandonment, wounds, anxiety. I was very anxious during my divorce because I just didn't feel like I had a grip on things I'm talking now about how I don't see myself as an anxious person, but during my divorce, I was extremely anxious because I just never knew what was coming next, and I was very dysregulated for a long time emotionally until I got a handle on that. So yes, I was very anxious during my divorce, but I do not consider myself an anxious person now. So my connection to God really helped me to alchemize a lot of pain into power or pain into healing, however you want to look at it. But, you know, I was able to turn negative to positive, turn darkness to light, you know, however you want to look at it, but to be able to separate myself from my wounds was kind of like a manifestation, in a sense, because, and there are different ways that people manifest things. For me, I keep saying that what our thoughts allow, our energy follows. But it's true, it's whatever we think about that's where our energy goes. So if we're thinking about something negative, then. Then our energy is going to become negative. And conversely, if we're thinking about something positive, then our energy is going to follow positively. So if something bad is happening to you, or someone is doing you wrong, or someone is hurting you or disappointing you, or letting you down, somehow, whatever it is to be able to turn that into something good and positive and lightness rather than darkness. That's kind of how you transmute that kind of pain into power. So like for me, when I manifest, I sometimes I'm not even aware that I'm manifesting, because it's just what I'm thinking about. And sometimes, when you think about the same thing over and over and over again, some people say things out loud, like affirmations, whatever it is, it's like, the more you say it, or the more you think it, the more it kind of takes hold and the universe pays attention. So, you know, I always think of it in terms of becoming my higher self. And some people may say, Well, what's that? And if you think about it, it's like you think of the best outcome possible. You think of the best way and the the Most High and elevated way of an outcome. And if somebody breaks your heart instead of, you know, staying in that stuck energy of being heartbroken, then maybe you can kind of think of it in terms of what it would be like to be in love with someone instead of being heartbroken. So it's kind of like taking that bad experience and turning it into good. By some people may call it fantasy. I don't believe it's fantasy, because I think it's an intentional thought and an intentional energy that follows that thought. So to think of in terms of, you know, being in love, and what that feels like and, and what it would look like to be successful, and what, what would it look like to be long term, and you know who that person would be, and how they would treat you and and how you show up and how you treat them, and the reciprocity and things like that. It's like, you know, you kind of let your thoughts wander a bit and and think about what it would be like to be in love, to be happy, to be in a true partnership, to have true love in your life. I mean, think about that often enough, and you end up manifesting it. You it's it's interesting, because that's how I've learned to kind of master manifestation, because, and I will talk about this when the time comes. I know I've said this before. It's not the right time right now, but as soon as things start coming to fruition and in reality, then I can talk about it. But for right now, I have a lot of irons in the fire, and once they start to come true, I'm I promise you, I'll tell you all about it. But in the meantime, being able to separate myself from wounds and and pain and turning it into something positive and something that I'm able to manifest on my own, although it's not truly on my own, because I do feel very connected to the divine. So I do believe that it comes from the Divine, meaning God and and then I'm able to utilize that connection into the things that I manifest. And I'm feeling so effortless at this point in terms of my ability to manifest, because I've learned so much over these last three years and have put it into practice so many times that it really has become effortless for me to go from pain to pleasure, or pain to happiness, or however, you know, from unhealed to healed, however you want to describe it. But this is basically, you know, part of my healing and part of how I've learned how to do this for myself, and the fact that I have not done it by learning from books or I don't even know how else you learn this kind of stuff, but I do believe that it comes from God, because I didn't make this stuff up. I didn't figure it out, like totally on my own. How would I know how to do that? So I do believe that this came from spirit, and this is something that I have figured out how to do for myself and and it's working for me really, really well. I. I will tell you one of the things that really like irks me and and I feel that this is how people get so stuck in their in their negativity. One of the people made a comment, I believe it was earlier tonight that in one of the divorce groups I'm in, where they were saying that they couldn't let go of something that I guess a partner did to them, and it's because of them that they can't move on. And it's a common theme. I read it and hear it a lot, where people can't really get out of their own way, in their pain and their negativity. And you know it, it really comes down to what do you want to come out of this? What is your desire Do you want to stay stuck in that kind of victim mentality which will just keep repeating the same cycles over and over and over again and you get nowhere. Or do you want to break out of that and find something different, find something happier and peaceful and positive and and move forward? So it's a choice. It's always a choice. And it just irks me when people stay in this this victim mentality, it's just terrible because it just keeps you stuck. But I do recognize that it takes some courage and some bravery and some risk taking to be able to step out of that victim mentality and choose something different for yourself. And what I've continued to choose is positive growth and transformation and alignment with God. And you know, in doing that over and over and over again, I've really, truly found happiness in that, and it's really kind of cleared the way for new beginnings, fresh start, new opportunities, a greater sense of ease in my life. Like I said, I'm not an anxious person, but, you know, it's, uh, it's much more calm. I find much more calm in my life right now. So I guess the the idea of manifestation, and you know, when I'm in the midst of trying to alchemize negativity into positivity and things like that, you know, I kind of have to put it out there. I have to put the right mindset and right mentality out there in order to manifest. And so, like, it's kind it's kind of weird. It's like you're by doing that, you're manifesting part of the manifestation, which, if that makes sense, it kind of doesn't, but I don't know how else to explain it. It's just keeping it all moving forward, keeping it all moving positively, all in the name of growth and evolution and healing, and it's really served me. So anyway, so after talking to this woman at this party the other night, she was really very complimentary and and I really took her words in and internalized it, because it really meant a lot coming from her saying, you know, how special I was, how unique I am. I because I really believe she and I are on the same frequency. We're just we're very aligned, we're very in tune. And I really appreciated what she was saying. So it was just validating, and at a space and time where I wasn't seeking validation. So you know, anytime that happens, it's nice, but it's not necessary. So I took it very deeply how she said, and I appreciated it. So I'm not sure if, if what I'm saying is making sense or not, but it's it's an amazing feeling to grow and to change and to evolve and to grow out of pain and grow into happiness and peace and joy. So anyway, thank you for listening. I'll see you in the next episode. Please join me every Thursday for a new episode. You can reach my website@podpage.com slash the music of life. Feel free to leave your email address. You can also leave a voicemail and share any kinds of stories or experiences or anything that you'd like to talk about. I promise I will keep you anonymous, but I. Assure you that whatever experiences or stories you leave for me, you are not alone, and I would love to share that with other people who are also going through similar things. Thanks again for listening. I'll see you in the next episode. You