From Old Wounds to New Beginnings: The Simple Practice That Changes Everything

Have you ever felt like healing is something you’re supposed to finish? In this episode, I share a powerful shift in perspective that recently landed for me—one that completely changed how I think about healing, growth, and moving forward. If you've ever felt frustrated by old wounds resurfacing or wondered why certain parts of your past still seem to follow you, this conversation may offer a gentler and more compassionate way to look at your journey.

I talk about inner child wounds, identity, purpose, and what it means to evolve without putting pressure on yourself to be perfectly healed. Rather than trying to erase the past, what if there was a way to acknowledge it, honor it, and still move confidently toward the life you're creating? Join me as I explore this simple but transformative mindset shift that has brought me a sense of peace and clarity.

Episode Highlights

[0:00] - Welcome back and an introduction to a new perspective on healing

[0:38] - Why healing is a lifelong journey of growth, learning, and evolution

[1:24] - Following your path and purpose while honoring free will and personal choice

[2:18] - How childhood experiences, criticism, and limiting beliefs shape our identity

[3:01] - Revisiting inner child wounds and rewriting old narratives that still influence adulthood

[3:51] - Introduction to the Becoming Whole Again divorce mentorship program

[5:14] - The realization that healing doesn’t mean erasing your past

[6:16] - A powerful analogy for bringing your old life into your new life without letting it take control

[7:06] - Why acknowledgment matters more than perfection in the healing process

[7:58] - Caryn’s personal reflection on embracing a new chapter while honoring the first 57 years of her life

[8:45] - Final thoughts and this week’s biggest revelation

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Transcript

Caryn Portnoy: 0:00

Karen, hi everyone, and welcome to the Music of Life. I'm your host, Karen Portnoy. Before I get into this episode, please comment, ask questions, share some of your experiences, and don't forget to subscribe. Hi everyone. everyone, welcome back. I wanted to talk a bit about healing for a change, a different perspective this time, but I had a different perspective that happened the other day, and I, of course, wanted to share it with you guys. So I talk about on social media, and here, and in speaking engagements, the whole thing about a healing journey is it's very fluid. We could spend our entire lives healing, and the day before we die, we will still never be fully healed. But we're here to learn the lessons, we're here to grow, we're here to change, we're here to evolve, and that's what the purpose of life is. I believe we have other purposes here on earth that we're supposed to fulfill, if we heed the call, if we discover what our path and our purpose is, and we decide that we're going to follow that path and purpose. I am very clear what my path and purpose is, and that's where I'm headed. I don't know how many other people do that. I would think that it's a great number of people who do follow their path and purpose. A lot of people don't, and no judgment. It's just a choice, we have free will. Do we go this way or do we go that way? But in the meantime, I've said before that inner child wounds really are so profound, more than we give it credit for when we can look back and think about our dreams that we abandoned, or you know, the people that, that would say, Who do you think you are to dream that big, or you think you can ever do that, like what makes you think you can, and all that stuff, all the things that when we were young enough to think big and think outside the box and explore our imagination and come up with things that really lit us up and excited us as a kid, somehow our light was dimmed, we were told to shrink in some way or another, and we took the opinions and judgments and criticisms and all of that from other people, and we internalized it. A lot of it had to do with becoming an identity that we felt we had to be in order to get love from our parents, from our family, from the people around us. So I've said before that you know our inner child at any stage of its life, whether it's a young child or adolescent or teenager, at some point we, you know, if you're on a healing journey, you go back and you revisit those ages where there were pivotal points in your life that really shaped who you are now as an adult, so I always say that your inner child is truly ruling your life now until you can go back and face that time in your life, face all the wounds that were developed that are affecting you now, and rewrite that script, rewrite that narrative, change the course, you can do it. There's nobody stopping you. Hey, I just want to take a minute and tell you about the divorce mentorship program that I created. It's called Becoming Whole Again, and I created it mostly for women who were either considering divorcing their toxic spouse, or they're in the middle of a toxic divorce, or they're on the other side of a toxic divorce. At any stage that you're dealing with the emotional fallout from a horrific toxic divorce, you know what I mean, the text, the triggers, the berating, the harassment, the threats - all those things. I've been there, and I know what you're going through. This isn't therapy, I promise. This is real hands-on support from somebody who has been where you are. I survived it, I thrived from it, and I've actually transformed from it, and along the way I've gained so much wisdom from a spiritual healing journey that I am so happy to share with you and help you. It's not about fixing you, it's not about telling you what to do, it's about guiding you and guiding you back to yourself. There are so many people out. There, who need this? I promise you, I hear from them daily. Thank you for your support, and thank you for listening. Okay, now back to the show, and the thing about a healing journey is that as much as you can try and heal the wounds from your past and your inner child and all of that, you know, you can't erase the first half of your life, where you were growing and where you were becoming someone and shaping who you would be now, you can't erase that, so the thing that I uncovered recently that really kind of blew me away is that if you can metaphorically take the hand of your former life, like your previous life, like when you were a kid, and take that hand and walk it into your new life, so you're in essence bringing your old life with you into your new life, but you're sitting it down in the back seat, you know, the last row of the bleachers or somewhere that is not front and center, but it's there, you can visit it, you can acknowledge it, you can honor it, but it's not still running your life as you take steps into your new life and your new identity, and walking forward into the unknown and the unseen and the adventure part. We all know that the first part of your life, with all of those wounds and healing that needed to be done, and all of that, it's like that part ran our life, we know all about that life, we've lived it, we've suffered through it, we've agonized over it at times, so to step into a new unscripted, unsculptured, unstructured kind of beginning, you kind of have to say goodbye to the old in order to embrace the new, but because you can't cut it off and get rid of it altogether, to bring it with you and just seat it down and say thanks for being here, we'll call it when we need you, you It that's that's all it is, so you can acknowledge it, you can honor it when you need to or have to, and you keep going, and I really like that analogy, because I think it's so helpful, it takes the pressure off of being perfect, having everything sorted out, healing everything completely. It doesn't have to be perfect, it really doesn't, but it does need to be acknowledged, because we can't change what we don't acknowledge, and that's huge. So I'm very happy to put the first 57 years of my life in a proverbial box and put the box in the back seat of my new life as I step forward and continue stepping forward, evolving and growing and becoming, and all the exciting things that are in front of me, so that's just something that I've been moving through in the last few days, and it landed really nicely, it landed really peacefully, landed like, like it wasn't this big boulder of oh no, now what it wasn't that at all. It was just like, okay. Thanks for joining me. Go sit down, call you if I need you. So, anyway, that's my revelation of the of the week. I'm gonna wrap it up now. So, thank you for joining me. Thank you for listening. Thank you for supporting me, and I will catch you next week. Take care. Please join me every Thursday for a new episode. You can reach me on my website, which is podpage.com/the Music of Life. You can leave me a voicemail, a text message, you can leave your contact information if you want to be anonymous, no problem. I promise to honor that, and you can also find all of my social media platforms there as well, which is Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and LinkedIn. Thanks again. I'll see you next week.

Unknown: 9:41

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